Summer is almost here and with the arrival of spring, the flowers are blooming and flings are starting to blossom.
Everyone is excited by the rays of the sun, the freedom to wear less clothing, and knowing that summer is quickly approaching. Watching and hearing stories about people's hook ups and adventures has led me to discover that women are just as much out on the prowl for action as guys are.
There is a misconception that does not give girls enough credit for wanting to go out with the intention of finding a partner for the night with no strings attached. Clearly, that is not looked at in the same regard as when a man is seeking a casual sexual encounter, hence the cute little names that have been used to slander women who are a bit more promiscuous.
I applaud my friends who seek out some "lovin'" with no need to exchange phone numbers, or even names in some cases. In this day and age, women are no longer the "booty call" and have picked up the phone to start making their own calls.
I have friends that have been commenting on the clinginess of their hook up buddies, and how the lines of the casual hooking up still need to be acknowledged. A certain sense of sexual freedom comes with the "hit it and quit it" approach.
My friend, "Lucy" recently engaged in casual sex with strangers as a celebration of finally freeing her inner sexual beast and ending a tiring relationship.
The next morning there was a potentially awkward moment as Lucy realized her new friend didn't remember her name. The physical part got a little ahead of the personal conversations the night before, and they both realized that it didn't have to be awkward.
Lucy told him her name, but didn't want to admit that she didn't remember his. Then Lucy chose to forego the typical girl move, and instead left without needing a hug, handshake, or exchange of phone numbers. As he took her home, a simple "OK bye" sufficed as they both went their separate ways, making things satisfyingly uncomplicated.
They both got what they wanted, and Lucy got to break her 3-month dry spell. She also realized the potential opportunities that this new understanding brings to her life.
Of course this doesn't apply to everyone, but as it starts becoming more and more prevalent, one wonders if it will ever be as acceptable in society for women to act the way Lucy did.
Now that spring has sprung and people are out and about, it is the perfect time to find whatever sort of relationship you are looking for.
Know that the changing seasons bring about changes in many people's behaviors. Don't make the mistake of assuming you understand people's intentions. You could also think it is casual, and end up with a "stage 5 clinger." Be up-front and honest, and get names if necessary, or continue on the search for your soul mate.
Whatever search you are on, have fun and know what you want out of the situations you are getting into.
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