Dating doctor David Coleman gives students a dose of relationship advice
Published: Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Updated: Tuesday, November 1, 2011 20:11
On Tuesday Oct. 25, "The Dating Doctor" David Coleman came to Sonoma State on behalf of the Associated Students Productions to give a speech about dating and relationship advice to students in the Cooperage.
Coleman, who is the "real life Hitch," does 200 shows a year and has been giving this lecture for over 10 years.
Coleman not only does 200 shows a year, but he also has 10 clients at all times, and has had over 350 clients in his life. Coleman was voted as the 2011 Entertainer of The Year and 2011 Male Performer of the Year by Campus Activities Magazine.
Coleman says he deals with about one "Hitch"-related thing everyday with his clients.
"You can teach charisma; you can't fake confidence. You can't feign interest because people will see through you like glass. They will label you like a hypocrite, and they are right," said Coleman.
As a sophomore in college, Coleman had no problem meeting girls, though he was only able to focus on one girl at a time, so his friends started to realize that they could meet the girls that Coleman was not able to. By junior year, Coleman had eight to 10 guys to be his wingmen to meet girls.
"If you are not your own greatest walking ambassador—if you wouldn't choose to date you—how can you expect anyone else to want to?" asked Coleman.
When Coleman arrived to Sonoma State, he turned on music and talked with students before the show. Coleman had candy to hand out during the show for students who had good answers or had an interesting comment to add to the lecture.
"What I am about to teach you will stay with you for the rest of your life," said Coleman.
Coleman's first point in the discussion was about people finding someone who complements them. He told the audience that he does not want students to find someone who completes them, but he wants students to find someone who complements them.
"Ninety-nine percent of the show I created," said Coleman. "It is cliché to say but I am here to change these people's lives. A lot of people after seeing the show will never live the same way again."
Coleman added that he changes the show every night. By learning something new from the audience from the night before, he then shares that information with the next audience.
Next, Coleman talked about what he calls the ABC's of initial interest. Coleman explained that the ABC's stand for attraction, believability, chemistry and desire.
"When you feel like you are alone on a date, just think that I will be there on your shoulder asking you about those four categories," said Coleman. "If you are with the right person, time will go by as fast as the snap of a finger. You always want to leave them wanting more."
After Coleman talked about the ABC's of initial interest, he talked a little about the movie "Hitch."
Since Coleman gives his speech 200 times a year, someone saw him do his show a few times and decided to write the screenplay for the movie, "Hitch." Coleman did a promotional tour called Satellite Media Tour in 100 cities in two days before the movie came out.
"People always want to know what is true and what is not true. About 75 percent of the movie was true and 25 percent was a Hollywood fabrication," said Coleman.
Coleman never kicked a girl off of a jet ski, and he has never taken a girl to Ellis Island to see the signature of her dead relative. However, the part about the shellfish in the movie was real since, like Will Smith in the movie, Coleman is allergic to shellfish.
Coleman explained to the audience that he was at dinner with 10 students two hours before a show in Michigan.
"I accidently ate shellfish and they had to rush me to the hospital where they gave me a shot of Benadryl into my face," he said.
The hospital gave him six double dose packages of Benadryl to take, which totaled about 3,000 mgs of Benadryl.
"Right before the show, because all men have egos, I took all the Benadryl. I can't remember anything about the show, but Michigan booked me back seven years in a row and told me that I was hilarious," Coleman added.
After talking about the movie "Hitch," Coleman brought up the subject of the worst pick up lines ever and challenged the students to see if they knew a pick up line that he did not know.
Coleman told the students that he knows about 1,100 pick up lines and that if they got up and said the first half of the pick up line and he could not finish the line, the student would get candy.
Coleman told the women in the audience, "Ladies, when guys come up and use pick up lines or say something, some of you just don't know that you are being hit on. You are either clueless, oblivious, or you are trying to play some type of game.
Coleman finished the speech by talking about that special, "Hmmm." He explained the "Hmmm" as being someone who stops a person dead in their tracks, but they do not even know that they are being checked out.
"It's not about the appearance; it's about the attitude. You've got to be the fat penguin. Someone has got to break the ice," said Coleman.